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# 5 Questions to Deepen Trust
![[calendar-plus.svg]] <small>Oct 15, 2022</small> | ![[calendar-clock.svg]] <small>Nov 06, 2022</small> 🏷️
**Author:** [[Michael Bungay Stanier]]
**Citation:** Bungay Stanier, M. (October 2022). *5 questions to deepen trust* [Audio]. MBS Works. https://www.mbs.works/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/5-Questions-to-Deepen-Trust-Audio-Lesson-by-MBS.mp3
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# Abstract ~ 3 Sentence Summary
A 15-min audio lesson that was offered as a bonus for participating in [[How to (really, truly, deeply) trust yourself - MBS 2022]]. MBS shares five questions he uses to reflect on, deepen, and refine insights about how he works, what matters, and what the best way forward might be.
## Key Takeaways
- Questions can help you understand yourself and who you want to be
- Use questions to connect to what matters and stay focused
# Notes & Important Ideas
### Power of questions
Questions are paradoxical
- They can ground you *and* disrupt you
- They can reveal what you don't know *and* what you do know
- They can help you better understand what's really happening in the here and now *and* they can help expand future possibilities
### Questions to check-in with yourself at the beginning of the day
1. What am I noticing?
- Three areas of noticing:
1. What's grabbing my attention outside?
2. What am I thinking? How am I thinking?
3. What's in my heart? What am I feeling?
- Helps build capacity and nuance in these three areas
- Just notice or you may choose to do something with it
2. What am I grateful for?
- Don't overthink it
3. What's the **one thing** today?
- Naming this helps remind us of what really matters
- Doing one important thing a day helps you make progress, and progress helps make you feel content and make a difference
### Question to finish the day with
4. What happened during the day?
- Helps you stay in the moment and celebrate milestones and accomplishments
- Syncs nicely with **one thing** question
### Question for weekly review
5. Big, [[existential questions]] about who you are and what you're doing
- More a type of inquiry than specific question
- 3 of MBS's favorites are:
1. What's the crossroads you're at?
2. What old story is it time to change?
3. What's the lesson you keep needing to learn?
## Connections to Other Materials
[[The Coaching Habit - MBS 2017]]
## Personal Reflection & Application
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# Other References
TBR:: 🔖 The Progress Principle by Teresa Amabile and Steven Kramer (GR)
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