%% #📓 #📢 #🟠 %% # How to (really, truly, deeply) trust yourself **Author:** [[Michael Bungay Stanier]], [[Laura Gassner Otting]], [[Ozan Varol]] **Citation:** MBS works. (October 12, 2022). *How to (really, truly, deeply) trust yourself* [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsxhvUt5LnY&ab_channel=MBSworks --- # Abstract ~ 3 Sentence Summary ## Key Takeaways # Notes & Important Ideas ### How to identify what you're truly good at 1. Reflect back on your life. What's one moment when you successfully took action, even when you doubted yourself or didn't feel qualified? 2. What is something that you don't even consider a skill - but other people would? What feels like play to you - but work to others? > [! quote] Ozan Varol > We tend to distrust our superpowers because they come easily to us. We value what's hard and devalue what's easy. - Tap into your true self and your inner child - Identify your skills and superpowers - Use them as building blocks to create something new ### How to move forward when you don't feel ready > [! quote] Ozan Varol > The trick is to start walking before you see a clear path ahead. There is no path until you walk it. #### Decision-making process for big goal > [! quote] Michael Bungay Stanier > Every choice you make has prizes and punishments. 1. What are the prizes of not doing the big thing? 2. What is the punishment if you don't do the big thing? 3. What is the prize for being fully committed to the big thing? 4. What is the punishment for being fully committed to the big thing? > [!quote] Michael Bungay Stanier > The status quo has a much stronger pull on you than you realize. ### How to navigate success 1. What was your first definition of success? Where did you get your definition of success? - Internal pursuit of curiosity, integrity, contribution, etc. - External pursuit of achievement 2. What's your definition of success now? #### 4 Factors That Create Success & True Happiness 1. Calling - gravitational force that excites you 2. Connection - does what I do really matter? 3. Contribution - how does this work contribute to the life you want? 4. Control - how much personal agency do you have to make a difference in your work? - Which of the factors feels most powerful or resonant? - May have a different mix of these factors at different moments. ### How to find your people - Make sure your inner circle includes: - Someone who is further ahead that you can aspire to - Peers who are at the same/similar level - People who haven't reached your level yet, so you have someone to mentor - Have an abundance mindset and share with others to find others who have an abundance mindset and willingness to share with you > [! quote] Ozan Varol > Great minds don't think alike. Great minds also don't think alone. - Look for people who share your values but don't share your thoughts - You have nothing to learn from someone who things like you > [! idea] Dinner to Deepen Relationships > 1. Create a list of people you'd like to get to know better/deepen your relationship with > 2. Host a regular dinner and invite two of those people to attend > 3. Start conversation with "Tell me two essential things about yourself." > 4. Each dinner come up with five interesting questions. First person asks a question and everyone answers. Second person picks a question and everyone answers. ## Connections to Other Materials ## Personal Reflection & Application --- # Other References ## Tags