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**Title:** Your 12 Personal Commandments
**Author:** Demir Bentley
**Citation:** Bentley, D. (2021). *Your 12 personal commandments.* [Video]. Lifehack Tribe. https://members.lifehackmethod.com/project/your-12-personal-commandments/
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# Abstract ~ 3 Sentence Summary
To be the most effective in setting goals and achieving them, it is important to first understand your values and what kind of person you want to be. [[Demir Bentley]] adopted [[Gretchen Rubin]]'s practice of creating 12 Personal Commandments as a guide for how to live your life. In the Lifehack version, commandments should be reviewed and revised annually to ensure they remain relevant and inspiring.
# Notes & Important Ideas
> [!quote] We're so busy getting things done that we lose touch with WHY we're getting these things done, and HOW we want to operate as we move through the world.
- Just as important as being effective and productive, actually more so, is what kind of person we want to be in life.
- Who do I want to be? Who do I enjoy being?
- Sometimes you connect with an idea or principle and embody it as a mantra that guides your life, but often we eventually lose touch with that idea.
- [[Gretchen Rubin]] introduced concept of [[12 Personal Commandments]] in her book, *The Happiness Project.*
- Aligns with the [[BETDAR]] model to help you achieve your goals.
- When setting goals, it's important to first address any limiting beliefs that may be holding you back.
> [!quote] We must get re-grounded in the principles and values that are most important to us, BEFORE we decide on our big plans for next year.
- Demir recommends updating your personal commandments every year.
- Retire commandments that you don't need to be reminded of because they've become embedded as standards in your life, or conversely aren't relevant anymore.
- Rollover commandments that are still relevant and you still need to hear.
- Add new commandments that are relevant to your current circumstances.
# Author's Purpose
To introduce a process Demir and Carey use to clear resentments and reset a growth mindset as they go into annual pre-planning.
# Personal Revelations
This is a great practice for using something like the [[Ladder of Inference]], not to analyze what has already happened, but to be intentional about how you want to show up in the world.
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# Other References
TBR:: 🔖 *The Happiness Project* by Gretchen Rubin (GR)
## Tags
[[Lifehack Tribe]] | [[Productivity MOC]] | [[My Personal Commandments]] | [[Annual Pre-Planning Checklist (Yearly).docx]]